It’s a natural feeling to want to help someone who’s in need. Though it’s certainly okay to provide favors from time to time, at some point there is a line that has to be drawn. It’s important to be conscious and respectful of this line in order to protect yourself and keep the situation from getting out of control.
You will inevitably encounter people that will take notice your good intentions and due to their unhappiness or misfortune, may try take advantage of your kind heartedness. They may do this accidentally or just out of pure desperation. Having a relationship with a toxic individual could drain your energy and resources and ultimately lead you farther away from where you want to be. That’s why it’s absolutely imperative to surround yourself with people that will influence your life in positive ways.
Though the events that Robert Greene mentions involving Lola Montez took place centuries ago, it’s easy to imagine a similar situation occurring today. Imagine an individual who feels so broken that they cannot stand on their own and therefore feels the need to cling to others as a means of carrying on with life. Though their actions may be well intended, the consequences are disastrous for the person they latch onto and most of the time result in devastating expenses on their behalf.
That’s why it’s so important to be mindful about who you surround yourself with. Many people experience joy from seeing the people they care about succeed. But it’s important to keep in mind that you also deserve that kind of support. Encourage yourself to develop relationships with people who will challenge you and help you grow as a person. By building a circle of mutually beneficial and positive relationships, you can create transformation in your life.
As you continue in your journey towards having a happy and successful life, you should keep Greene’s advice in mind and as a rule of thumb, try to avoid unhappy or unlucky people, or rather, surround yourself with positive influences. You will experience so much more happiness and success from dedicating your time to healthy, positive relationships.